Life Event

[CarGuy]

I've been lurking on this thread for a while and have been happy to see your successes! We're peers/similar in many regards and I've shared many of your concerns but in particular herein with what happens to assets that one spouse has a keen interest in and the other spouse is disinterested.

Circling back to day one of this thread, what have you done in the interim with respect to the smaller or niche-y assets: Oaks, guns, etc that you have collected and presumably enjoyed but would simply be more weight for the spouse in the event of passing? Have you minimized? Sold off some and
cataloged/ noted values of the remainder?

Keep up the great work!!!

 

[Lopaka KaMars]

My thoughts and prayers have never stopped for you my Brother.

 

[Medusa50]

Mom’s condition has deteriorated. The doctors have said her kidneys are likely failing. Her chances of recovery are close to zero. We are arranging transport to our home. I just signed her DNR.

 

[docrusty]

Mom’s condition has deteriorated. The doctors have said her kidneys are likely failing. Her chances of recovery are close to zero. We are arranging transport to our home. I just signed her DNR.

Sorry to hear. There will never be a time when you are ready, no matter how much you prepare mentally. Seems like your mother was telling you she is ready to transition on without explicitly telling you. I hope she is not in pain and passes peacefully.

 

[Medusa50]

Today I lost the first love of my life. My Mom passed away in the early morning hours in her home where she belonged. Resting comfortably, her tiny head on the pillow, wearing a white gown with a red heart on it, her little heart beat for the very last time. Though I wasn’t there to see it I imagine it as a beautiful moment.

The time was 3:08 in the morning. As my phone began ringing I exclaimed, “Oh my God, it’s my Mom. She’s gone” even before answering the call. I knew it was coming. Just 48 hours prior I made the decision to take her back home so she could transition to her next life from a familiar place. It was one of the best decisions in my life.

We are all servants to a higher power. Our work may be a half day or a full shift but when it’s time to go home we all punch out. Mom’s work was done. It was time for her to go to her home. The one where she will be for eternity.

Mom’s pain and suffering is over while ours just begins. Perhaps another way to look at it is we also have the opportunity to celebrate. After all Mom just won the biggest battle of her life. She beat death!

When my Father passed I wasn’t there. Dad lived in NV and I got “the call” There were a lot of moments that still haunt me as I had many regrets over his passing. Why didn’t I call him more often? Why didn’t I get him a better gift at the holidays? Why didn’t I spend more time with him? Why didn’t I tell him how much he meant to me, how much he taught me, how much I respected him or how I wished I could be half the man he was!

Having learned so much coping with my Father’s loss I had a different experience with my Mom. I called her even if it was just for a few minutes. It isn’t the quantity but the quality of the time you spend.

I asked myself why did I paint and fix the whole place when she won’t be there to enjoy it? The gift I gave her in doing so was to prepare her retirement from this earth. All the hours until 3 and 4 am were worth it. My cousin told me she boasted about how meticulously I worked and how much she loved the colors.

I gave my Mom a wonderful gift by bringing her home. A home I crafted just for her. A castle where all her things were about her right down to the lamp my Father gave her almost 50 years ago. One of the movers had broken a piece of it during a previous move. I fixed it perfectly and it made her smile. That smile cost nothing but was worth everything!

I spent time talking with Mom the last two days while she was still with us. Though she never said but a few words that anyone else would hear I heard her in a language only I could understand.

Last night before I said goodnight I told her this. “When the time comes Jesus will be there. Do not be afraid. Go with Him. Everyone will be there waiting for you. It’s OK. It’s beautiful. Wait for me and my wife. One day we will join you and we will be reunited.“ I kissed her on her forehead and said goodnight, till I see you again! In my heart I felt like I gave her permission to go. Hours later she let go of the ties that held her from breaking free of this life in favor of eternal life!

Today I lost my Mom! Today my Mom WON!!!

 

[Spc369]

Today I lost the first love of my life. My Mom passed away in the early morning hours in her home where she belonged. Resting comfortably, her tiny head on the pillow, wearing a white gown with a red heart on it, her little heart beat for the very last time. Though I wasn’t there to see it I imagine it as a beautiful moment.

The time was 3:08 in the morning. As my phone began ringing I exclaimed, “Oh my God, it’s my Mom. She’s gone” even before answering the call. I knew it was coming. Just 48 hours prior I made the decision to take her back home so she could transition to her next life from a familiar place. It was one of the best decisions in my life.

We are all servants to a higher power. Our work may be a half day or a full shift but when it’s time to go home we all punch out. Mom’s work was done. It was time for her to go her home. The one where she will be for eternity.

Mom’s pain and suffering is over while ours just begins. Perhaps another way to look at it is we also have the opportunity to celebrate. After all Mom just won the biggest battle of her life. She beat death!

When my Father passed I wasn’t there. Dad lived in NV and I got “the call” There were a lot of moments that still haunt me as I had many regrets over his passing. Why didn’t I call him more often? Why didn’t I get him a better gift at the holidays? Why didn’t I spend more time with him? Why didn’t I tell him how much he meant to me, how much he taught me, how much I respected him or how I wished I could be half the man he was!

Having learned so much coping with my Father’s loss I had a different experience with my Mom. I called her even if it was just for a few minutes. It isn’t the quantity but the quality of the time you spend.

I asked myself why did I paint and fix the whole place when she won’t be there to enjoy it? The gift I gave her in doing so was to prepare her retirement from this earth. All the hours until 3 and 4 am were worth it. My cousin told me she boasted about how meticulously I worked and how much she loved the colors.

I gave my Mom a wonderful gift by bringing her home. A home I crafted just for her. A castle where all her things were about her right down to the lamp my Father gave her almost 50 years ago. One of the movers had broken a piece of it during a previous move. I fixed it perfectly and it made her smile. That smile cost nothing but was worth everything!

I spent time talking with Mom the last two days while she was still with us. Though she never said but a few words that anyone else would hear I heard her in a language only I could understand.

Last night before I said goodnight I told her this. “When the time comes Jesus will be there. Do not be afraid. Go with Him. Everyone will be there waiting for you. It’s OK. It’s beautiful. Wait for me and my wife. One day we will join you and we will be reunited.“ I kissed her on her forehead and said goodnight, till I see you again! In my heart I felt like I gave her permission to go. Hours later she let go of the ties that held her from breaking free of this life in favor of eternal life!

Today I lost my Mom! Today my Mom WON!!!

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Having lost my mum i know where your coming from. Sorry for your loss at this time, thats one of the most beautiful pieces ive read on this forum and shows how much you truly meant to each other

 

[GRFMotorsports]

So sorry for your loss. As you stated, she is now free. I knew this is what I was going to read when I got the notification of a new reply. God bless you and your family.

 

[Wicked]

Today I lost the first love of my life. My Mom passed away in the early morning hours in her home where she belonged. Resting comfortably, her tiny head on the pillow, wearing a white gown with a red heart on it, her little heart beat for the very last time. Though I wasn’t there to see it I imagine it as a beautiful moment.

The time was 3:08 in the morning. As my phone began ringing I exclaimed, “Oh my God, it’s my Mom. She’s gone” even before answering the call. I knew it was coming. Just 48 hours prior I made the decision to take her back home so she could transition to her next life from a familiar place. It was one of the best decisions in my life.

We are all servants to a higher power. Our work may be a half day or a full shift but when it’s time to go home we all punch out. Mom’s work was done. It was time for her to go to her home. The one where she will be for eternity.

Mom’s pain and suffering is over while ours just begins. Perhaps another way to look at it is we also have the opportunity to celebrate. After all Mom just won the biggest battle of her life. She beat death!

When my Father passed I wasn’t there. Dad lived in NV and I got “the call” There were a lot of moments that still haunt me as I had many regrets over his passing. Why didn’t I call him more often? Why didn’t I get him a better gift at the holidays? Why didn’t I spend more time with him? Why didn’t I tell him how much he meant to me, how much he taught me, how much I respected him or how I wished I could be half the man he was!

Having learned so much coping with my Father’s loss I had a different experience with my Mom. I called her even if it was just for a few minutes. It isn’t the quantity but the quality of the time you spend.

I asked myself why did I paint and fix the whole place when she won’t be there to enjoy it? The gift I gave her in doing so was to prepare her retirement from this earth. All the hours until 3 and 4 am were worth it. My cousin told me she boasted about how meticulously I worked and how much she loved the colors.

I gave my Mom a wonderful gift by bringing her home. A home I crafted just for her. A castle where all her things were about her right down to the lamp my Father gave her almost 50 years ago. One of the movers had broken a piece of it during a previous move. I fixed it perfectly and it made her smile. That smile cost nothing but was worth everything!

I spent time talking with Mom the last two days while she was still with us. Though she never said but a few words that anyone else would hear I heard her in a language only I could understand.

Last night before I said goodnight I told her this. “When the time comes Jesus will be there. Do not be afraid. Go with Him. Everyone will be there waiting for you. It’s OK. It’s beautiful. Wait for me and my wife. One day we will join you and we will be reunited.“ I kissed her on her forehead and said goodnight, till I see you again! In my heart I felt like I gave her permission to go. Hours later she let go of the ties that held her from breaking free of this life in favor of eternal life!

Today I lost my Mom! Today my Mom WON!!!

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May your Mom rest in peace
You are a good son….you did exactly what she wanted/needed you to do and you will have zero regrets……she went her way

 

[IAMOBS]

From the looks of things she led a long full life. Being able to say goodbye is also something a lot of people don’t get. I’m glad you were both able to. She’s for sure proud of you.

 

[The Proprietary Molecule]

My condolences to you and your loved ones in losing your Mom.

Sounds like you were a devoted son who loved and adored her. Cling to the wonderful lifetime of memories you made with her, they will help soothe your broken heart.

Peace and healing brother.